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jonescarp aka dale (1-2007)

Brief description: Every precious moment and important personal event we missed to go have that smoke ARE GONE FOREVER.


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Contact email: "there is beauty in the pain because of what you stand to gain"

Telephone: "You Can't Change Anything Until You Change Your Mind"

Mobile phone: You have to do some cocooning to become a butterfly.

Website: www.myspace.com/jonescarp

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About me

Don't Even Dream Of Smoking. LOL

Life keeps coming. Good days and bad. Smoking is not required.

Beginning my 8th year Nicotine Free.  No Luck Was Involved. I didn't "hope" I could do it. I decided to quit and I quit

Quitting isn't about what you use or your exact plan. Quitting is about being willing, willing to come out of denial. Willing to be honest and honorable with yourself.

Life is life. You will have good days and bad just like you do as a smokerSmoking does not make things better. It is an illusion caused by the dopamine release nicotine causes when it hits the pleasure receptors in your brain that it has hijacked.

The first 2-3 weeks are the worst time for most quitters. You may feel like you're in a fog, disconnected, shaky. Emotions are all over the map. Your mind and body are experiencing great changes.


At about 3-4 weeks you start  feeling much better and think you're over it.


Watch Your Back the 100 days following your first month.

During their first 130 days is when most people drop the ball. No mans land cravings can come out of nowhere, and unexpectedly, knock the quit out of you.

Don't Drop The Ball! You've proven you don't need to smoke by making it this far. Why would you give in now?


Thomas posted a study on 8-27-12 in the following link describing the cues to smoke (craves) as being more intense in the first few months after the initial 35 days. This is the whole reason I focus on the first 130 days. This is exactly what I have described for a long while on this site as "No Mans Land"

What To Expect The First 4 Months


No Mans Land (Study From Thomas Precedes)



and, the two sets of seasons building new memories without smoking to strengthen your quit


Nicotine keeps you coming back for more while you are a smoker but long after people have quit using it, long after the pleasure receptors we sensitized to nicotine have died off, it's the memories experienced during each of those smokes and the emotions we've connected to them that make people come back to smoking. Nicotine is the physical addiction but is 10% of quitting, the habit is the psychological part and I consider it to be 90% of quitting.


Does the patch really double your chances of quitting? The patch can help take the edge off to help you focus on working through part of the initial unlearning of the habit but it will not quit for you and it will not keep you quit. At 6 months people who used the patch the entire suggested course of treatment went back to smoking at the same rate as everyone else.


I've put in enough time here to know I can't save everybody. People talk themselves into smoking. It's not my fault. People put themselves in risky situations and choose to smoke. It's not my fault. Every time people choose to smoke, they break a promise to themselves and put another hole in their armor until there is no armor left. It's not my fault.

For those of you who think you are going to do it "your way" and have one here and there along the way?

Nicotine receptors are not moral or ethical judges. They cannot be lied to. They tell your brain the last time they were fed, not you.

They are chemical receptors. They will not start dying off permanently until you stop feeding them.

"If you've quit smoking and you're still smoking? You're doing it wrong."

Be Free!!!

"Your Quit Will Be Yours 'Til You Don't Want It Anymore"

v v v v v   Who Do You Want To Lead You Up The Mountain?   v v v v v

Damage Control Not For One, But The Whole

People come on the eX, a public board, and are permitted to say anything,  right or wrong, misleading or even rediculous.

As a long term quitter of tobacco and nicotine and a helper on this and another site since I quit over 7 years ago, I  imagine people who are not participating but just reading the blogs are thrown off track because someone put misinformation or a wrong attitude in someone's mind and got them thinking of a workaround to getting their fix until they do.

The Addict Mind Will Glom Onto An Idea That Gives Them A Form Of Permission To Risk Failure  and, It doesn’t take much when you’re looking for a way out of the misery you are feeling, perceived or real.

Example: “They Drank All Weekend And Didn’t Smoke, SO CAN I.”

Example: “They didn’t count their “slip”, so why should I”?

When I see people post harmful ideas that may take someone down the wrong road,  I feel it’s my duty to counteract these ideas and within an effective time frame.  The damage is done to other readers if I wait until tomorrow so, I do it as soon as possible.

Now, in some peoples eyes, they may see it as a personal attack. It’s not my intention that it be that. I try to never directly attack a persons character (because I don’t know them.) Instead, I try to put discussion of what my objections are in my own blog post.  These new quitters often attack my character (again, they don’t know me from Adam so I typically sit back and take it) They start name calling and may demand that you not post on their blog and if you do, they delete your comments. And yet, they will continue to write nasty things on your blog.

I write my own blog on the topic to counteract the effect their’s may have and not have my comments deleted. Again, I always try to stay on topic and not make it personal.

Now admin in some groups doesn’t care what people put out there and will defend their right to say it. I too defend the right for people to say whatever they want and it is not my intent to belittle someone but,  if I can save 10 people from taking the misinformation or wrong attitude and running directly to failure, I have been willing to take the heat for it.

Possible reactions:

These people whose ideas have been questioned can go to admin of the site and complain that they are being bullied. In admin’s eyes that is a possibility so they reprimand me/us. This last time was a public reprimand. In my eyes, this crossed the line.

So, I suggest that admin look a little deeper. I suggest admin look at the whole and not giving more credence to one person who is passing out bad ideas or misinformation that might take one person or many  off the path of success over someone who has spent 10 hours a day here for nearly 6 years watching people’s choices and seeing them fail.

This has nothing to do with how you quit, what method you choose etc. It is about planting a misinformed seed in the minds of many who may choose to water that seed and fail because of it.

That said, I’m out of here, possibly permanently. And Tommy, I built this place too. It hurts to leave but the lack of support by the administration here is mind boggling.

To the administrators of this website.....Look at the elders blogs and the timing of them. I feel what what we do here is mostly damage control. Most of our blogs are in response to what the mood of the board is or what’s being/been said. We are trying to keep people on the path to success. It isn’t any fun being attacked for doing so by peoples shortsightedness. In fact, it’s very wearing
and YOUR lack of support has just worn me out.

to all my friends and those who give a damn about truth....

"hasta la vista~~~~vaya von dios"



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