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Share your quitting journey

It is time!

susan_m
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Now that I've finished hell week and am well into heck week, my mind has started wandering and wondering about the whole quit process. Nasty stuff, and clearly not for the weak. I've read a lot of data both on and off of this site, and educated myself on quit statistics. We all know that the key to a successful quit is mental; it's the commitment we make that helps determine the outcome. For some of us, health issues finally wake us up from our nicotine haze. For others it's a desire to live a healthier lifestyle. It may be a financial burden, or smoking may have just become a royal pain in the ass. Whatever it is that brought us here, we're here. But do we really want to be here? If yes, do we take what we need and move on from being consumed with the quit, or do we stay in the quit process? Yesterday I mentioned the little voice in my head who offered me permission to smoke (Larry, thanks for the "club" visual!). What is it that allows quitters to silence that? Willpower? Commitment? Fear of failing? Of having to start over? What makes some of us listen to that voice? Worse yet, think about the ones that slip and smoke without the voice at all. Habits are bitches to break. Some of us go into this to try and quit, some of us go into this to get through the quit. What's the difference, and in the end, does it matter? I think there's a huge difference and that it does matter. Some of us love our quits, and others of us are miserable every minute of it. Do positive and negative attitudes affect the success of a quit? If so, can we arm ourselves with appropriate tools for each attitude as we start our process? One of the keys to my very young quit has been blogging. It is in my nature to write, to share, to wonder, debate and discuss. This is the only site on which I blog, but I've read many blogs and forums and find that there are similarities in all. Some quitters know from day one that they are finished, and others repeatedly reset their quit dates. It's those that hit the reset button that impress me the most. Reminds me of The Little Engine That Could. We can all do it, but we have to have the right attitude. As always, I'm grateful to this site for allowing me to express my thoughts, frustrations and victories. I'm particularly grateful to those who have been here longer than me who offer continuous support, laughter and encouragement. I can't imagine getting through the withdrawal period without you guys; I would surely have failed. As I've pulled through the worst part of my withdrawal process, I'm going to find that it's harder to post regularly, unless we start a recipe sharing blog, lol. I'm going to switch my focus to supporting others rather than seeking support. What a wonderful transition to make! xx Susan
13 Comments
JonesCarpeDiem

YAY.

Onward and upward!

KJay
Member
Go, Susan ! Keep going ( hah ! ), Colts... Kjay
RachelMB
Member

Good morning Susan-

You're doing so wonderfully my friend and I'm very proud of you!  I have seen you work through this the last two weeks and know you have what it takes.  Keep on keepin on!  🙂

Rachel

Mike.n.Atlanta

Attagirl Susan. Blogging is a distraction. Distractions of any kind will help relieve the urges.

Keep on keepin on,

M n @

c2q
Member

You are at the beginning of your quit journey, and already you are reaching to help others who may be struggling. For me, this is the good stuff, the fun stuff.

Daniela2016
Member

Susan,

You seem ahead of the game, good for you!  Who says you have to struggle through the first month?  You mentioned in one of your posts this week we all have different ways of quitting!  And if yours allows you to concentrate on helping others to help yourself, go for it! 

Be the happy quitter, and we will all be happy for you!  I was not one happy camper, but later in my recovery, and I know what a relief that became when I started looking at the craves as being blessed to have because that meant I had no longer smoked!  If you can just cruise through the hardest part, the first weeks, the first months, more power to you!

You go girl!

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crazymama_Lori

this page is one that really helped me:  https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/relapse-prevention

YoungAtHeart
Member

I will answer one of your questions.  In the early days, two things kept me going 1) my physician (who is also a friend) told me that there are more people in the U.S. who have quit than are currently smoking.  He asked me if ALL of them were better than me.  I took that as a challenge!  2) I had not found this site with its educational materials and support until three days after I had quit, and my first days were AWFUL.  I knew I would have a hard time quitting again, knowing that I would have to get through those days again.  I vowed to NEVER put myself through that again.

And - VOILA - first quit attempt successful!  That was 4 1/2 yars ago - and I still am fearful of ever going back to Day One again....not going to do that to myself - just not!

I hang around and pay it forward because I want to help EVERYONE find this freedom.  It is SO wonderful!

Nancy

Stopforgood
Member

Excellent blog.  Glad you made and are sharing that strong personal committment and absolute decision, ... It looks like this in writing, "I will never smoke again, and I will never change my mind."    Nope, Sinao.   I think you're right, committment and decision over hope and try, every time.  I think that does make it simpler, maybe not easy, but much less difficult.  Best to you in your journey, and looking forward to your support and help for many others in their individual journey.

TerrieQuit
Member

Great blog, Susan! This is an "I'm gonna do" instead of "I'm going to try" deal! Make the decision and commitment and go with it! It is not impossible to get a good quit and then relapse. (It doesn't happen to most, but it did happen to me) My honesty and commitment brought me right back, you have decided and made the commitment and I am very proud of you! Keep moving forward!

Don't Quit on your Quit!

Strudel
Member

Sharon - Congrats on your quit! Love your blog - so, keep on writing! 

Dotgirl_1-28-16

Congratulations on your awesome quit Susan! You're doing an EXcellent job! Keep in mind that you sharing your journey in a blog like this one, you may be giving voice to how another person is feeling, you may be helping somebody else feel less alone, by sharing in a blog you're still supporting others. It's nice to want to give support in other ways also, just keep in mind that you're supporting the EXcommunity by sharing your EXperience. Thank you for a great blog!

elvan
Member

Great blog, you've got a great quittitude and it will take you far!