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ShawnP
Member

Foundation For A Successful Quit

FOUNDATION FOR A SUCCESSFUL QUIT
  
1. KNOWLEDGE

We always say on the site to read the info the site has to offer and other links we give you.  Reading the blogs of our members gives you knowledge of their experiences. Learning about our addiction, the triggers and how to react in certain situations is equipping us for our journey. You will go through NML

( No Mans Land) days 30-130 of your quit  where your emotions run high. It's at this point in your quit, if you haven't educated yourself with the info, you could lose your quit. In all my previous quits, I never knew much about my addiction and they ended up as failures. This time I did it the right way and am still quit to this day. Be smart this time!

 2. HAVE FAITH

If you lack faith in your quit, you tend to worry, have anxiety and become more controlled by your circumstances because we aren't confident in the outcome. We  need to believe in ourselves that we can do this!

3. COURAGE

It is the mental or moral state to face fear, difficulty and to keep moving on. For example, the initial phase of our quit, where we decide to set that date and start is the easy part. But as days go on, we get a higher resistance from our body and mind.  The challenge is to get through this part of the phase. The resistance will increase but we must continue and never give up. At some point the resistance will get weaker and the going will be easier. Through this process, we become stronger.

4. USING WISDOM

The ability to discern or judge what is true, right, or lasting. If you know or have those feelings that something just isn't right or you have a fear something is going to  happen that might jeopardize your quit. DON'T DO IT!! For example, if you always drink and smoke together, going to a party isn't a good idea in the beginning unless you are saying no to the alcohol. Even then, you are still in that social setting and you are putting yourself at RISK. Is it worth it?

5. BEING OPTIMISTIC 

It ultimately means the best possible outcome of any given situation. We can either lift people up or drag them down. How you react to circumstances affects other people. Everybody has an influence on somebody.  To become a more positive person, we must replace every negative thought with a positive one. Examples, I can't do this, I just want to give up = yes I can do this! I will try.  I hope I can stop smoking = I will stop smoking. We really need to reprogram our minds. This doesn't just apply in our quits but in our lives. It helps us to become a happier person.

I am including useful links below. Use them to find your own personal freedom!

Allen Carr's Book..Easy Way to Stop Smoking (free downloadable ebook)

http://media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf 

How To Quit
Staying Tobacco-free After You Quit | Tobacco Withdrawal 
  
Help For Cravings And Tough Situations 
Full Index of Lessons   (10-1hr ) 
Quit Smoking Course Lessons

Videos

Joel's Quit Smoking Library 

Goodbye Letter To Cigarettes

 /blogs/aztec-blog/2012/07/18/i-hope-you-all-write-your-goodbye-letter-to-cigarettes-and-post-it-here... 

Dear Friends & Family: Here's What To Expect From Me While I Quit...

/blogs/SkyGirl-blog/2013/11/06/dear-friends-family-heres-what-to-expect-from-me-while-i-quit  

 

Putting A Stop To Smoky Thinking

/blogs/ShawnP-blog/2012/10/20/putting-a-stop-to-smoky-thinking 

Foods that could help you  quit and ones to stay away from

/blogs/ShawnP-blog/2013/06/24/attention-newbies-read-this-first 

Law of Addiction

The Law of Addiction 

No Mans Land- Days 30-130

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex/blog/2011/05/24/no-mans-land-days-30-to130-appr... 

What's After No Mans Land

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex/blog/2013/12/05/the-two-sets-of-seasons 

The Version Of Us

/blogs/Storm.3.1.14-blog/2014/07/18/the-version-of-us 

Quit Kit

/blogs/Christine_Aka_Legend-blog/2014/08/22/quit-kit 

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Shawn, I would like to re-post this on my blog. I'm adding you to my friends list, so I can get more great truths on quitting. My quit date is December 6, 2013. Just a few days away.

I am preparing, working on changing my thinking, and distancing activities from smokes. I tried mini quits but they didn't work. 😕 Thought I was doing a good thing, but turns out I was causing myself more problems!!!

thanks Shawn for this, my biggest hangup seems to be not believing in myself> I sta in my van for over an hour, not smoking but once my daughter got in I couldn 't help myself. I have work on my preparing to quit.  Don't Fell sorry for ME!!! thanks summer

elvan
Member

Shawn,

You are amazing, all that you do here for all of us is so appreciated, I really hope that you KNOW that.  It is always good to read the support offered to newbies because no matter how long I have been quit...I will always need to remember how easily I could go backwards and how horrible the consequences would be.  I am worth more than that, to myself and to others.  YOU, my friend, are amazing!

Love,

Ellen

sweetplt
Member

Super post ... I can’t wait to read a lot of the sites you recommend.  Thank you for sharing ...

Giulia
Member

I love how you're doing your homework.  You re dedicated to your quit.  That's what it takes.  You have great accomplishments ahead of you.  Keep on.

Deelonnsoul
Member

Wow..downloaded saved..noted...thank you so very much!! This all is so valuable

elvan
Member

SO GLAD that you found this...Deelonnsoul you can bookmark the page if you want to be able to access it.  Welcome to EX.

Ellen

joyeuxencore
Member

Lori24201‌ this is a wonderful post!!!

Hello Shawn! xo

Lori24201
Member

This is awesome! Thank you so much... love to read !! 

Love the information!! I havent reached NML yet I am in the chasms of despair! I deal with something different several times a day...this is hard .... today i was so angry at people driving, i was silently cussing everyone   . And I got very angry or frustrated quickly.  Next thing you know, I'm crying thinking terrible things..  wow just wow.....But I am making it !! That's why I call it the chasms of despair.. up n down and dont know what's coming around the corner !! Buckle up buttercup!!

johio
Member

You nailed it Shawn.