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jbliesmer
Member

Introduction

My name is Jaime. I am nearly 40 (YIKES) and have been smoking the greater part of 20 years. May 2017 is my quit. I don't have an exact date, but I know this is happening next month.

Thanks for having me as part of this community.

Looking forward to the support and encouragement.

11 Replies
YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. Here is a link to a free PDF version of it:

http://media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf

 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go the the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

Nancy

Hi, Jaime!

We're glad to have you on board! I'm glad you're using this time before you Quit to get acquainted! Also check out the My Quit Plan in blue letters are the upper most right hand corner. Give us a holler with questions or just to talk.

I read:

The Easy Way

whyquit.com

and quitsmokingonline.com

as well as here. I joined BecomeanEX on March 16, 2010 and quit on March 20, 2010.

Not One Puff Ever since!

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

Welcome to EX.  pastedImage_1.pngCongratulations on making the decision to quit smoking. You have come to the right place for a new day and a rebirth. May is almost around the corner so set your date and get started.  You have to prepare yourself.  So here is a little bit of information to help you get started. This is all about you and what you are willing to do to be smoke free. Quitting smoking requires hard work.  It can be challenging at times but you will learn that it is doable if you adhere to NOPE not one puff ever no matter what. 

 Start First, by educating yourself about nicotine addiction.  Education is the key to a successful quit.

Read: Freedom from Nicotine My Journey Home and Nicotine Addiction 101         

Here are the links      http://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html   and http://whyquit.com/ffn/

Also Read   Allen Carr’s book, “Easy Easier Way to Quit Smoking”.       

The link is here:  http://media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf

 Go to http://www.becomeanex.org/how-to-quit-smoking.php#thl and get started. We will support you. You are in your journey for freedom

elvan
Member

Welcome to EX, Jaime, you have gotten some great advice above.  You can do this, I really believe that education about nicotine addiction is HUGE, I also believe that tracking cigarettes helps...write down when you smoke, write down what the trigger was...boredom, anger, stress, just "stuff"...then plan for what you will do INSTEAD of smoking when those triggers hit, that is a Quit Kit.  I had one that was really helpful.  Support is also key and this site was a life saver for me and for many other people here.  You will find out things about yourself that will surprise you, all the while you smoked, you stuffed emotions in and now you are going to have the experience of learning how to deal with things WITHOUT stuffing them.  It's really surprising to sort of meet your real self for the first time in many years.  It's a journey, this quitting thing, it's not an event.  One day at a time, one hour or one minute if a day is too long.  

Happy you are here...I told you on another post that NOPE was my favorite acronym when I quit, it got me tmhrough some pretty challenging times.

Best,

Ellen

Bree19
Member

Welcome to us!!!  Please stay close.  Read every day - these people are wise beyond words.  ALL their advice has merit and they've supported me since February and today I reached my 50th smoke-free day - sweet smelling and proud.

Glad you're here Jaime.  Look forward to getting to know you.

Bree

dwwms
Member

Welcome, Jaime! So glad to have you here! It is good that you've decided to give yourself some time to educate yourself and prepare yourself for your journey. I'm relatively new in my quit (almost a month), but I came here a couple of weeks before my quit date and heeded the advice given to me (which was from the same "elders" above).

Personally, I found Allen Carr's book inspiring - it made me realize that I'm not giving up anything! I'd also add that when you prepare, as you track your cigarettes and what the triggers are, note how much you really enjoy the cigarette. I'm betting you'll find you don't enjoy it as much as you might think - I certainly didn't.

On a personal note - I'm approaching 60, I'd like to be where you are - quitting before I'm 40!!

Again, Welcome - we are here to help each other on this journey to being free!!

Doug

Sootie
Member

You are making one of the best decisions you will ever make. AND---you have found the best place for support to carry through on that decision. Please do the readings as they really are crucial to success. 

Welcome to EX! We are all here for each other. 

MarilynH
Member

Welcome Jaime, you are definitely making the best decision that you'll ever make in your lifetime, by quitting smoking you're giving yourself the gift of LIFE. jbliesmer ,stay close and be sure to do the recommended reading because it will strengthen your resolve to quit and remain quit. 

bonniebee
Member

sayings welcome purple rose.gifI am looking forward to your quit date Jaime !!!

Get excited about it ,you have made a great decision !