We all want to change things about ourselves and that is very normal, but sometimes those changes can be very hard.
Have you tried to quit smoking, started making a plan, and then thought, "This is taking forever and it's harder than I expected"? This self-defeating self-talk feels like a mental stand-off between giving up and achieving your tobacco free life.
This is all very normal and can be part of the process. When I try to make a change, I always start off very motivated. I do well for a couple of weeks and then something happens that throws me off my path. In the beginning, people are motivated and start out strong; but as they continue their motivation wanes, and they begin to fatigue. When they can see the end is near, their drive is back and their motivation returns, but that middle part where they slow down, stall out, and struggle? That is the tough part.
They see progress – but it is not happening fast enough, and so that familiar self-doubt comes into play. I see this often with my patients. They reduce their smoking to 3 cigarettes per day and settle, never reaching their goal of complete abstinence.
Has this ever happened to you?
How do you get back on track?
Change is not a linear path. You may get stuck a few times and cycle through before you succeed. This path is OK if you are learning from your mistakes. There is a great deal of research out there that looks at why some people fail, while others succeed.
Often people who succeed had many failures early on.
People who tried and failed and tried again gained insight each time that helped them to eventually succeed.
Thomas Edison said, “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
This quote is a reminder to not give up easily, keep trying new tools and giving it your all. Success will follow.
As I encourage you to keep on your quit journey, remember that trying and being unsuccessful is not true failure, it is part of the process of discovering what works for you, to live your tobacco free life.
What are some things you do when you feel you are losing that motivation to keep on the path of change?
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