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the power we gave smoking

JonesCarpeDiem
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‎08-01-2014 08:58 PM
  

Every moment of every personal event lost to go have a smoke

  

whether in triumph or defeat, joy or sadness, is gone forever.

  

We did not experience what was going on in the same context as everybody else because you are thinking about where you can go smoke. That thinking of smoking both before and during those times add up to huge chunks of life we missed.

  

What kind of participation in life is smoking if smoking is so important as to make us ignore everything going on around us so we can get our fix?

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8 Comments
swilson2
Member
‎08-01-2014 09:34 PM

i have missed so much of my life because i needed a smoke time gone forever!!

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cheyenne7
Member
‎08-01-2014 10:25 PM

That was one advantage of my parents generation......they could smoke everywhere, never having to leave for a smoke.....I'm sad that my father smoked, but I'm glad he could smoke everywhere.....cause I could hang around him, whether he was smoking or not....

Does that make sense.....Some can probably relate to what I'm saying....

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promise_judy
Member
‎08-02-2014 05:02 AM

This was so true for me too.

XOXO

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cookie804
Member
‎08-02-2014 07:08 AM

when I started smoking, it was permitted everywhere. That made it very very easy. Now it is like smoking is against the law. I do believe if one wants to smoke they have a right but in special areas.

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Deena-A-Yenni
Member
‎08-02-2014 07:44 AM

I'm so glad I don't have to smoke anymore.

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louise-irene
Member
‎08-02-2014 07:50 AM

Someone once said, "Whose hand could I have been holding all the times I had a sickarette in my hand?"  My husband has Parkinsons, uncontrolled diabetes, and mild dementia and I need to be there for him.  He loves to hold hands and kiss all of which I cannot do with a stick in my hand and my presence for him out of focus.  That truly is one of my reasons for quitting.  He deserves more than I give him now, too focused on the next (counted out) stick. Total quit date (0 sticks a day) 15 days away. I will be ready.

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YoungAtHeart
Member
‎08-02-2014 10:29 AM

And, how any visits/occasions did we NOT do because we did not know how (or if) we could smoke.  I never visited my non-smoking friends out of state because I could not imagine stinking up their environment - and I did not fly when it was cheap and easy because of the long hours I would not be able to smoke.

How much of life did I miss?  A LOT!!

I wish I had gotten the message sooner.

Nancy

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JonesCarpeDiem
Member
‎08-02-2014 10:33 AM

yes. i missed the actual planning to NOT GO PLACES because I didn't know if i could smoke.or not.

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.