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can we turn a positive outcome negative by envisioning failure?

JonesCarpeDiem
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‎08-31-2022 09:07 PM

         I believe if you envision faiure before you've even quit, you set yourself up for it. How many smokers have lost their quit by setting up negative expectations beforehand? 

          I had a steak off the grill about 6 hours ago and hadn't had anything since. I knew I couldn't make it to tomorrow with a totally empty stomach. 

          I decided  a couple pieces of cinnamon toast was a good plan.

          I smashed some unsalted butter on a paper plate to make it spreadable and put the bread in the toaster.

          There was some extra cinnamon sugar sprinkled about the plate and  a film of butter on one side.  I decided I was going to mix them with my finger while the topping was broiling for two minutes and "clean the plate."

          All of a sudden, I lost control and the plate began to slip from my hands.

I caught it after I saw it falling

But, then, it fell anyway.

 

**** It

**** happens 

Stay positive

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.