This was posted by Peggy on March 5th and it has helped me so much I can't even tell you!!! For all of those new or in No Man's Land (Days 31 through 130) you really need to read this!!! If this blog helps ONE person - I will be so happy!
http://community.becomeanex.org/pg/blog/read/5738845/i-have-a-theory-please-be-on-the-lookout