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The Other 19

Storm.3.1.14
Member
5 11 27
  Dear Newcomers & NMLers -
   
  Maybe that nagging voice in your head is trying to sweet talk you into having “just one” cigarette. And, in moments of hungry boredom or tired grumpiness, maybe you think that “just a few puffs” will be okay. It’s ”just one“, after all. Just one little cigarette.
   
  
   
  But, it’s not just one. And, it never was only one, was it?
   
  No, cigarettes travel in packs. There are 20 of them at a time. Yes, you might “only want one“, but you have to buy 20 to get it. That’s 19   more cigarettes in your hand. 19   other temptations on your mind. 19   extra mistakes that you   are going to wonder if you’re willing to make.
   
  
   
  Many mantras guided me during my early quit, and one of them was this:   “I do not want the other 19.”
   
  One was never enough for me; it was always 20.   Always. I had to stop trying to trick myself into thinking I could “beat the system” by believing I could accept otherwise. By thinking I could “go social” and be perfectly fine with “just one” now and then.   Delusion!
   
  
   
  1, then the other 19. Then 20 more, then 40, 60, 80, 800, 8000...for me, there’s no limit to what 1 could lead to. This is my truth, and I own it.
   
  So, I choose   ZERO. Because one would be too many, and one million wouldn’t be enough. 
   
  Zero today, zero tomorrow, zero for life. 
   
  Zero means never having to deal with that 1 again. Or, the other 19.
   
  You can choose it, too!
   
   STORM: 767
   
11 Comments
tjbeck1-3-10-14

This is sooo true

856beverly
Member

Storm, you are so wise.  Thank you for posting.  "They travel in packs."  I must always remember this.  xoxox  God bless!

MarilynH
Member

EXcellent Storm!!!!

Niebauer7
Member
So true and very well put!
bonniebee
Member

The best thing for me has been NOPE !!!!

elvan
Member

I LOVE that, they travel in packs!  That's a great way to look at this.  It is a one day at a time journey and it works if you just think of it that way...just for today...then it becomes tomorrow and the next day and the next month and the next year!  Wonderful to hear from you!

Strudel
Member

I choose zero too! Zero forever!

Thanks Storrm! 

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

Love it! Never thought of it that way.  Learned a new mantra “I do not want the other 19.” Thank you for sharing.  Good one.

NewMe
Member

Great blog. I had never heard that phrase before, but I like it. I don't want the other 19 either. This is an EXcellent post, especially for newbies. Really drives home the whole idea behind N.O.P.E. Thanks.

Mrs.Rum
Member

I never really thought about it out loud, but I realize that it's something I DID tell myself.  "You don't want one.  You want them all."  And 'all' starts with that first 20.

crazymama_Lori

wolves in sheep's clothing, aren't they?