I had such a day today. Relationships are HARD. I found out that people that I thought got along and loved eachother actually harbored such anger and resentment. It was eating away at them. And, of course, since I am the common denominator, I am in the middle. Yes, I managed to get out of the middle but I have been having such a hard time not smoking.
I am not smoking. I can't and I won't. But I want to. It's associated with a break in the emotions. A way to cool off. I am doing a lot of deep breathing and actually am taking it by the minute. MINUTE by MINUTE.
It's not really a crave of smoking, it's the imagination of relaxing and stress reduction. And I KNOW it's not true b/c I've watched my blood pressure drop and can feel it in my neck and throat. (I mean it's less constricted )
The very postive thing is that I think stopping smoking has forced me to confront the anger in my household. And to have to deal with it. What is it that makes us hide ourselves behind smoke?? I want to see a psychologist's view on this. I think it's true! But I've carried that honesty to the people in my househild.
A little loving prayers my way would go a long way. Just to help me continue to see smoking for the dirty veil that it is and also to keep the honesty and strength needed to keep moving up and forward.