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Fall Back or Fall Forward

Ladybug--7-3-12
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It's easy to spout a bunch of cliches & platitudes to those "trying" to quit or "trying" to stay quit. I do it myself. It does get a point across with brevity hopefully to positively motivate someone. We never know when we say something what may have an impact on another person.

"Triumph is the word try with just a little more umph."
"One step forward and two steps back is still called the cha cha so keep dancing."

It can change the yuck feeling of falling back when we make bad choices & choose to continue to feed our addiction into something perhaps more acceptable & hopeful. Feeling better about it though doesn't change what motivates us to do better. Here I go again with the cliches.

"Fall 8 times; get up 9 times."
"Once we know better we can do better."

How many times does a person need to fall backwards to learn from it? Excuses for falling backward belong in our past. Free choice is always within our power. We can choose something different from what we have been doing (over & over again) to move us instead to fall forward.

Fall forward into new habits to create new paths. Fall forward into a future of something better, healthier, and life affirming. Different choices get & keep us in recovery to achieve an addiction free life. It's peaceful without the constant call of an active addiction.

"Easy? No. Simple? Yes. Doable? Absolutely." We already know it's the best choice for us. Get yourself clear of active addiction to see the possibility of a better future and then hang onto it for dear life. It's totally doable for everyone. Fall forward.

(How many thought this blog was going to be about changing our clocks?! lol)

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My quit is over for me. I no longer have to decide to stay smoke free, or reconsider it each & every day (or month or year). The choice to not smoke was made by me a long time ago, it’s been kept by me for a while, and being smoke free is now my normal way of living. Yes, I took smoking again off the table for me as an option from Day One/Won. Yes, I acknowledge that I will always be physically addicted to nicotine. Yes, I know I can’t have “even” just one or I will put myself at risk of a return to full-fledged smoking again. So what?! I chose to quit smoking. So I did it. I’m quit. The only requirement in order to Stay Quit is that I don’t smoke. As long as I don’t smoke my addiction to nicotine lies dormant. I don’t crave one and if I get a smoking “memory” it passes easily enough for me now (time & patience!) and life goes on smoke free. Smoking is never a solution to anything. It never has been & never will be for anyone. Smoking just adds a new problem to everything else. There will come a time in your smoke free life when you’ll need to just stop quitting & let everything having to do with the old smoking you go. I’ve arrived. I am at peace and so very grateful for my smoke free life. When you get there yourself you will be able to take the training wheels off & just get on with the living of the rest of your life. This is when your “End Journey” becomes the "New Journey" you get to actually design & live out smoke free for yourself. It's doable for everyone regardless of their circumstances or obstacles. It truly is and it's worth every bit of angst it takes to "arrive". Believe in yourself so you can achieve it too. Change what smoking means to you (educate yourself about nicotine addiction!) and then just begin. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Just Begin … "Until one is committed there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative or creation there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: That the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would otherwise never have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of incidents and meetings and material assistance which no one would have believed would have come one's way. Whatever you think you can do or believe you can do, begin it. Action has magic, grace, and power in it." W.H. Murray The Scottish Himalaya Expedition * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Helpful Resources: http://www.whyquit.com (Educate yourself on your nicotine addiction!) http://www.quitsmokingonline.com/course (Helpful for mindset. Free!) https://www.addictionsandrecovery.org/post-acute-withdrawal.htm (It IS an addiction not just a bad habit.) "The Easy Way to Stop Smoking" -- Allen Carr (Works for some; find & do whatever it takes for YOU!) * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *