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Excuses

Giulia
Member
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When you stop making excuses for why you can't quit, why you haven't quit, why you're putting off your quit, why you've lost your quit - you'll HAVE YOUR QUIT.  For quitting is all about giving up your excuses and being willing to be uncomfortable with the changes necessary to accomplish the freedom you're seeking.  It also takes brutal self honesty.

Excuses keep us smoking or return us to smoking.  When you understand (through education and personal experience) that smoking is a choice and not simply an emotional, uncontrollable reaction, you will be on your way to a life-long quit.  This change, this "understanding" takes a LOT of hard work and education.  We don't come by it naturally because the addiction is speaking to our "I WANT" child-like emotional being, let alone our brain receptors. 

Get rid of the excuses and you'll not only have a life-long quit right from the get go, but you'll find the beginning journey so much easier.  Because when you eliminate the "choice" to smoke in your head, you eliminate the potency of the desire and the attendant cravings.

But you won't know this until you've been there, done that.    So go there.  Do that.  Once you truly "get" excuses - there are none left to bar your way to success. 

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex/blog/2013/08/12/understanding-excuses?sr=search...‌  

15 Comments
shashort
Member

Thanks Giulia I have "shrunk my but" ( haha love that)  No excuses here for me. So I went there took the plunge and no going back for me. Thanks great blog.

c2q
Member

OMG... I just wrote OMG. Love that graffic.

Legend
Member

I like your blog thanks for posting it. 

jonilou
Member

Nice, Giulia. We have to do the hard job of facing ourselves and that can be painful, but once we take the plunge, and "shrink the size of our but", we are on the road to success, not just in quitting smoking, but in living the life we were meant to live. Thank you. I love this.

YoungAtHeart
Member

Clapping!

Mike.n.Atlanta

To smoke or not is certainly a choice Giulia, always has been...always will be.

Preach on preachin on,

TerrieQuit
Member

EXactually!! Love the "but" graphic! Thanks, Giulia!

Don't Quit on your Quit!

Dotgirl_1-28-16

OMG I LOVE THIS!!! I want to shrink my BUT! No excuses, just do it! It works in all of our affairs. Thanks Gulia!

Silverstar
Member

Thanks for the straight talk, Giulia.  I for one didn't think I always had a choice, and how awesome is it to know that I do!  And, I learned it here, from educating myself (you said it) and otherwise learning from people who have been there and done that (you, elders, everyone who's made this journey). 

Here's to shrunken buts!

Giulia
Member

@Silverstar - you bring up a really good point.  We don't know we have a choice to smoke or not when we first come to the site.  We arrive being victims of the addiction, but learn through education and support how we can be VICTORS instead.

elvan
Member

Great blog. Giulia, it pretty much says it all!

freeneasy
Member

No good reasons to smoke or start to smoke, only lacking EXcuses

Stopforgood
Member

"addiction is speaking to our "I WANT" child-like emotional being,..." 

I just realized this when you said it.  Sometimes, we respond to cravings in a child-like manner, continue to ask why not, just one, get our feelings hurt, maybe even stomp, cry or have a tantrum when we're disappointed in the No decision. We know that the results of smoking are horrible and deadly and we must say No.  Some of us know from personal health experiences how dangerous and deadly this addiction is, an others can quit now and stay quit in time to prevent further harm and disease.  NOPE.

Rick_M
Member

Great blog my friend. We all have a choice. Quit smoking and take your life back. .

indingrl
Member

Hey brother Rick so good to read your comment - I missed you - hope you had a good n.o.p.e. day

About the Author
Member since MAY 2008. I quit smoking March 1, 2006. I smoked a pack and a half a day for about 35 years. What did it take to get me smoke free? Perseverance, a promise not to smoke, and a willingness to be uncomfortable for as long as it took to get me to where I am today. I am an Ex but I have not forgotten the initial difficult journey of this rite of passage. That's one of the things that's keeping me proudly smoke free. I don't want to ever have another Day 1 again. You too can achieve your goal of being finally free forever. Change your mind, change your habits, alter your focus, release the myths you hold about smoking. And above all - keep your sense of hewmer. DAY WON - NEVER ANOTHER DAY ONE. If you still want one - you're still vulnerable. Protect your quit!