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Are Your Back Doors Open or Closed? By Nancy (Sick of it!)

Thomas3.20.2010
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 I want to republish one of my Favorite BLOGS by one of my Favorite Advocates! I hope this helps those of us who are waivering!!!

 

Your DECISION to stop smoking starts with your mindset and usually goes something like this. The first few attempts usually turn out to be dismal failures because you weren't actually serious when you quit! We saved the ashtrays, packs of ciggs (just in case) and even told ourselves we would only smoke if things got really bad, too stressful, or if we lost our job etc... WHY would we do that? Personally I believe it's because we had smoked for such a long time and we really WANTED to quit, but not FOREVER...that was way too much to realize at the time....So we left the "back doors" open in our subconscious mind to starting again.....But ONLY if something TERRIBLE happened...even though the TERRIBLE thing did or didn't happen, our mind kept drifting back to the old subconscious 'brainwashing' of "I'll never REALLY be happy without smoking", or "I love smoking" ", or blah,blah,blah....... Then, after awhile, when we become serious enough to quit, we come to the realization that we are CHOOSING to quit smoking (not just a "want to")...... we DECIDE we are choosing to quit smoking FOREVER, and the task becomes much easier. This time we realize that smoking will NOT BE AN OPTION, for any reason at all, no matter what . So on a conscious and a subconscious level, there is no internal arguement...we have CHOSEN to be free and will honor that decision to remain free to staying quit every day.....The quit process does take time, but the better your DECISION to quit is at the outset, the better quit you will have and all of the "back doors", where the old brainwashing is located, or REASONS/EXCUSES to smoke will be closed. So if you are a newbie or a long time quitter, ask yourself about the "what if reasons" to start back smoking are before they can happen and CLOSE those BACK DOORS.

6 Comments
cheyenne7
Member

Interesting......to be honest, I think I would have to say that the back door opens and closes for me......I guess I can think of my thoughts//feelings as the 'wind'.....blowing the door open or allowing it to remain shut.....

That's me at least, during this quit at this time.....food for thought.....thanks for sharing Thomas.

promise_judy
Member

Thanks for sharing Tomas. I believe for me the back door is finially closed. LOL

karen230
Member

Very good post aand really good food for thought. I can so relate to it. Especially to the part of the mind that participates in the argument. The arguing is what is most exhausting and self-defeating. But the more I examine the issue the more I see the arguing as just the addiction trying to draw me back. If I notice it and lable it "addiction thinking" I find I can let it go and move on. At least for today... this minute.. I am fine. I try not to project past that. Thanks, Tomas.

Barbara145
Member

Great post Thomas. I get it this time       every word finally.  My first quit attempt I was 18 years old.  I am now 67.  I have had serial attempts ever since.  God is with me this time and I am on day 196.  Have a blessed day.

freeneasy
Member

This is a great blog and it applies to anyone thinking about quitting or EX smokers in various stages of their quits. Thanks for the repost Thomas.

ubananc-y
Member

The above blog sounds like the first 3 steps of 12 step recovery groups to wit adapted to cigarettes.

1.  I am powerless over cigarettes and my life becomes unmanageable or if you prefer less manageable due to "wasted money, poor role-modeling, poor personal hygiene,etc

2.  I came to believe that a power greater than myself (Ex Posters, God, etc.) could restore me to sanity (mind and body recovery.

3.  Made a decision to turn my smoling behavior and "willpower" (mind) over to the care of Ex Posters, God or whomever which will be a power greater than you are alone.

Lastly deciding and doing are different things.  I can give up cigarettes today, but not forever.  It is okay to smoke tomorrow because it is always today.  This certainly helped me with another addiction though my smoking is so overtdetermined and long-lived that I must admit I have greater fear of this, but only for right now.

About the Author
63 years old. 20 year smoker. 11 Years FREE! Diagnosed with COPD. Choosing a Quality LIFE! It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. -Galatians 5:1