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Tomorrow I will have been quit 3 months, and to celebrate I thought I would write down the three things that helped me the most in my quit. Turns out there are way more than three, I can’t rank them, and I would need to write a book to list them all. So for now, I’ve listed some things that worked for me. I have a couple disclaimers before I start:
1. Acknowledge a craving as soon as you notice it. The longer I let one mess around inside my head without giving it a nod, the more powerful it was when I did.
2. Distraction was my best friend.
I frequently re-read the “list of things to do instead of smoking,” and other suggestions from people with solid quits.
Sometimes a physical activity was my best distraction, sometimes something more meditative. Have a “menu.”
The act of inventing a distraction can be the distraction. “Triple_a” (Acknowledge it, animate it, annihilate it) was a distraction I made up when this big hairy gorilla of an urge wouldn’t go away. I felt like I had invented the cure for cancer . . . wait, I did!
3. Give thanks to those who give you support. Chances are you’re a really unpleasant, insecure, prickly person right now. Even if you’re not, thank them anyway. They are helping you save your life.
4. Don't wait to seek support until you are about to give in to an urge. Develop rituals that give you frequent doses of support.
One that saved me was so stupid, I snickered when I first read it. And then I was caught off guard by a group of people smoking, and the aroma of burning cancer-sticks was like a siren calling. I couldn’t think of a way to save myself, but that stupid idea stepped right up and walked my butt down the sidewalk. Never can tell.
5. This is about you quitting smoking. it’s not a competition.
6. Quit smoking supports are not your lovers. They are not jealous of each other. Use as many as you need. If you need more, ask.
7. You are not the first person to feel like you this. Quitting is very hard and very personal. Much like a baby taking its first breath -- it's scary as hell, but lots of people have done it before.
8. “Wanting the cravings to go away is not the same thing as wanting a cigarette.” This from ckoalaco, on this site. Biggie for me.
9. No matter how old you were when you had your first cigarette, you were a non-smoker until that moment. Don’t think about becoming a non-smoker, reclaim the freedom you once had.
10. The one foolproof way to stay quit is to not smoke.
11. Gimmicks are “ingenious gadgets that work in a concealed way. “ Learn to love ‘em. Think up as many new ones as you can. Like:
My friend Susan B used to keep her cigarettes wrapped in newspaper, secured with rubber bands and sealed in a sandwich bag. It took her 3 minutes to get one out. When I laughed, she said that her gimmick made her think about whether she really wanted a cigarette or not. She said, “Quit as often as you can, for as long as you can.” I thought, “when I quit I’m just going to do it, no gimmicks.” Susan quit smoking decades ahead of me.
12. Pledge your resolve. In this case, saying it does make it so. A pledge is a serious commitment. If you don’t mean it, don’t say it.
13. Concentrate on the bit of time you have committed to. No thinking about a failed quit 15 years ago, or what you will be able to pledge tomorrow. See number 10.
14. Review your list of reasons for quitting every day. Know your milestones and count them down. Don’t have a list? The wall is to your left . . .
15. Talk about your quit to someone who supports you. It helped me to talk to someone who had quit themselves.
16. Read or listen to all the information and advise you can find about quitting.
17. Animate a craving -- visualize it as something else. Any image will do – you steal it’s power by calling it a different name. Nicotine addiction is big and scary. But a one-eyed purple chicken? Maybe not so much.
A bit of humor has been the best tool of all. Happy quit!
This is just a brilliant blog! Wish you'd been around at the beginning of MY quit. I can picture myself now in a grocery store saying: HIE THEE HITHER TOE!!!!" Hilarious. Sense of humor is all important in this game. DEATH TO THE EYEBROW!. Though I think they would have put me away within the first month of my quit with all the body part ranting I'd have done. lol.
"I can't give you my quit, you have to get your own." Oh but I so wish we all COULD give the beginners our quits.
I lost two quits at the three month mark. Be wary and Kudos!
Just EXcellent! Absolutely EXcellent!
What a great blog. Your quit and your perspective is greatly appreciated and your humor is super. Thanks for this helpful information. I am just over 40 something days. I enjoyed reading this. Again, thank you.
This is an AWESOME BLOG!!!!!!!! The 3 mo. mark is what has sunk me in the past..... So glad I found this! Thank you for sharing...I must bookmark this to find my way back! prairie35dof
Hey PRAIRIEROSELADY. Very glad you enjoyed it.
Pati
@ c2q Thank you for sharing your experience. I feel like I'm being way too selfish on thsi site, I check it at least 5 times a day at work. I need to get on it but I'm doing my best.
For #17, picturing my craving/temptations...not sure where I got it but I picture money hungry big tobacco executives creating brainwashing marketing campaigns to take my hard earned money and health....I probably got it from reality but in my mind it's much more sci-fi. Then I yell NOPE!!!!!!! Then I laugh like I'm crazy because I partly am lately in a good way. It's probably all that extra oxygen.
Thanks again for this post. Very Inspirational.
Danielle
Day 17, hour 17
ps. I almost forgot, shoot. HAPPY 3 MONTHS!!! You're Awesome!
Glad to meet you!
From: a fellow humorist, Lenora
SO APPRECIATE THIS BLOG,FILLED WITH USEFUL INFORMATION! HAVE no intentions of crashing and burning during this stretch of 60 to reach 90 days. In the past, I've always crashed somewhere in the NML time frame........I NEVER KNEW THERE WAS, A NO MAN'S LAND!!!!!
Day 69 and GOING STRONG!!!! WAS IN A SMOKING ENVIRONMENT YESTERDAY...IT DID NOT BOTHER ME, ONE TINY LITTLE BIT!!!!!!!!!!! IF, IT HAD I WOULD HAVE CHANGED MY LOCATION.........
Prairie 69 DOF
Good to hear Prairieroselady. Go girl!