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About Me:: I am an army wife, trying to deal with deployment and raising two kids by myself. I want to quit smoking for myself, my children, and my husband

Location:: fort Knox

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I have been with my husband for four years. I have smoked for seven years. I have gone through bad relationships, homelessness, three pregnancy's, a previous deployment, deaths and major illness in the family, and smoking has gotten me through all of it. I didn't smoke during my pregnancy, but afterwards I did. smoking is my crutch. I have had a longer relationship with cigarettes than I have had with any one else in my life, my mother, my father, any boyfriends, and any home. I have a longer co…

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Posted by Charity on April 14th, 2008 at 9:58pm — No Comments (Add)

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At 11:38am on July 8th, 2008, donna said…: hi im new at this and would like some help thought id ask you since were both married with kids and trying to quit

At 2:15pm on June 23rd, 2008, Liz Szabo said…: Hi Charity,

I sympathize with your efforts to quit smoking. Although I don't smoke, I'm a new mom myself, and I understand the stress.

I'm writing about this issue -- efforts to help women stop smoking during and after pregnancy -- and I was wondering if you'd like to share your story with my paper, USA TODAY? Or, do you know any other moms who might be willing to talk to me about their struggle with smoking? We do need to use first and last names for everyone we interview, so I hope that is OK. I've learnedthat a fair number of women, like you, are able to quit during pregnancy, but that 70% then go back to smoking after delivery. All the experts say that most smokers need several attempts before they can quit for good, so it's not surprising that a lot of new moms go back, or quit only after their kids are much older (and they've tried five times).

Thanks for your help. You've done a great thing by starting this forum!

Liz Szabo
lszabo@usatoday.com

At 5:14pm on May 11th, 2008, ManOfSteele said…: I want to wish you a Super Mothers day.

I want to extend my hand of support to you and everyone in your group. I am helping build a inner support structure with groups that can help other group members. Most in my team have years of support experience in a smoke free environment.

We have been there... done that ...and if you can not relate to one of us there are about 9 others that also offer Super Support.

I hope you will consider our help and do not be afraid to ask any questions. We are here to help others like yourself.

http://community.becomeanex.org/group/dailypledge
http://community.becomeanex.org/group/gameroom

http://www.tobacco-facts.info/

For a Free Quit Keeper - http://dedicateddesigns.com/qk/

We all love a pat on the back when we do good - get yours here
Help others and let them learn from your story here !

Ray
I have been quit for 4 Years, 1 Month, 1 Week, 19 hours, 9 minutes and 46 seconds (1,498 days). I have saved $11,990.38 by not smoking 59,951 cigarettes. I have saved 6 Months, 3 Weeks, 4 Days, 3 hours and 55 minutes of my life. My Quit Date: 4/4/2004 12:00 AM

At 3:51pm on May 11th, 2008, Lauren said…: I can relate A LOT to you!! I am also an Army wife. Hope to talk to you sometime. Happy Mothers Day!!Lauren

At 9:50am on May 6th, 2008, Linda said…: Hi! I just joined ex i had my last smoke today feeling good so far.

At 11:45pm on April 27th, 2008, Matthew Stockmyer said…: Hi Charity,

I know I'm not a "new Mom," and this is a little weird for me. I am a new Dad though, but I didn't see anything in the way of a Dad's forum / group. I thought I would ask before I joined any group to make sure everything was "kosher" first. Would you mind?

Thanks,

Matthew

At 3:37pm on April 14th, 2008, denverdeb said…: good job charity. I took my kids to the zoo today to get out of my house It was a great idea. the morning this morning absolutely sucked.. damn this is hard. the chantix is working great for me though. I want to keep this up

At 9:36pm on April 13th, 2008, denverdeb said…: i just had my last one too charity. april 13, my hubby's birthday. good luck. it is worth it for our beautiful kids. and think of it this way, your kids are so young, they will never een remember that you smoked!! yay!! go girl

At 3:39pm on April 13th, 2008, Lea said…: Hi Charity... You can do it. You have the most beautiful children and they are so worth this. I have two boys myself ages 14 and 11. They constantly tell me to quit. I finally did it. Today is my 2nd day and it's been fairly difficult but I am NOT going to give in. You stay strong for yourself and your family. Your husband will be so proud of you.

Warmest Wishes,

Lea

At 12:40pm on April 12th, 2008, Elizabeth said…: Tomorrow is a huge day for you and I too know you can do it. I'm excited for you! Please remember to come here often... every member has helped me more than they know, both in giving and receiving advice and support! Keep us posted on how the first day of forever goes for you tomorrow!

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