Smoking in the closet!

Good girl. I think this is a good place to get the needed support. Don't underestimate the power of quit smoking buddies and old veteran tips.

Hey dharmagirl, I am new to this group. I really,really, really want to stop. My parents once told me they would make me eat cigarettes if they caught me smoking,that was when I was in high school. I would smoke always looking around the corner and hope I didn't get caught. That was over twenty years ago and I am still a closet smoker. My parents have both passed away. My dad was a smoker, his dad was a smoker. My mom didn't smoke, I was more afraid of her. My husband and I have been together for many years and we are still smoking. I am tired of smoking but I know I am smoking because I am seriously addicted. I am down to smoking about 2 to 5 cigarettes a day. I stopped buying them the beginning of this year. My husband is my enabler. When I come home from school or work, that is the first thing I reach for, one of his cigarettes. He will remind me that I am suppose to be quitting. I keep saying that I am. I don't smoke once I leave my house, but when I get home.......... I even have patches that are still in the box. I am replying to you because I will set my date for May 5th also. Maybe we can support one another. I really want to quit for good this time. I never joined a group before for support. I have been reading everyones advice, this seems to be what I may need. I will keep everyone informed on my progress. Right now I am going to explore the program a little more and set this as a bookmark. My goal for tonight "NO SMOKING"

OK! May 5th! - however I won't be around much to be supportive as my husband and I are going out into the wilderness for two weeks and I won't be able to be in touch. (obviously taking no cigs with me!) But I will think of you, please think of me. I am using my powers of visualization like crazy these last few days, imagining myself doing various things contentedly without smoking. Here's a suggestion: when you seek spiritual help, don't say, "Please, please, please help me do this difficult thing." Instead, say, "Thank you, thank you, thank you, for my clear, strong mind, my healthy body, my blessed life." Would you do me a favor? While I'm gone, would you monitor this discussion and reply to anyone that writes to me and let them know that I'm not answering because I'm away? Thank you. One more thing: have you read Alan Carr's book, The Easy Way to Quit Smoking? Lots of the ideas I am using this time have come from there and I am feeling more confident than I ever have. Many blessings!

just wondering if you have made it back and have quit or not I really messed up my quit and cant bring it to myself to admit it to my husband or anyone else I so badly want to quit and be done with it. I quit for 2 years and never did a day go by that I wouldn't just kill my own moma for a cigarette so that is how the evil things keep me hooked now I think. Even tho I have read Allan Carrs book and listened to the cds over and over and I do fully understand this whole sickness now I am still failing attemps. Every night before I go to bed I tell myself I am not going to smoke in the morning and every morning I get up and do it all over again I am so tired of this and exhausted from the loss of my own integrity it is driving me mad and I just can't seem to just do it. I sure hope for your sake you have accomplished it and are on your way to showing me it can be done!

Wow, who knew there were so many of us. The hassle, shame and disapointment in myself I feel from being a closet smoker has been reinforced by all of you. I have been a closet smoker since I had my first baby over 8 years ago. I have hid (or tried to) smoking from so many people, and somehow that makes me feel worse about it. I live in fear that the people I hide it from will find out. My kids know, and they hate it. I guess these sound like great reasons to quit. I'm a seasoned quitter, I just need to do it for good. I just found this website today, and I am really impressed with the ideas and support-it's the best site I have found so far. Thank you all for sharing your stories

Hey Paula! I guess we have good reason to hide. It is awful that smart people as we all are - still smoke! It is really gross. Hiding it makes it even more disturbing to our little psyches...don't ya think? I bet closet smokers will be the most relieved when we quit this stupid habit. I know I will. I am looking forward to that!

Hi all, I had to do some homework for my science class, so I went on a hike today with my brother and sister to collect information. Neither of them smoke, so no cigarettes involved . We walked about 3 miles. I felt really good. My quit date is tomorrow. I need all prayers for support.

I am sending you huge waves of positive energy (((((feel it now?))))). You can do this! Be prepared and stay strong!

Of course I am here for you. Just remember once you commit, do not take a single puff. You will be starting to heal and one puff will put you back at the starting line.

Post a lot. If you really want to keep yourself shocked, visit whyquit.com and read. Joel's library has some good stuff to read to keep you focused on your mission.

Good luck.

hi cindy:

i know exactly how you feel. i think what bothers me more is that i only smoke in one place - work. the other thing that upsets me is that i can't picture myself not smoking. it is like i'm afraid to let this last bastion go. i wish i could share this with the colonel (my husband) but i can;t take that look he gets. i pray that i just wake up one morning and the "thrill will be gone....gone away for good".