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Having blown my April date, I am reset for May 5th. Here are some ideas I have been recording for myself. Hope they are helpful - blessings on our freedom!

What a terrible trap drug addiction is: part of my brain wants me to smoke more, and whenever I do the other part wants me to smoke less.

My blood fills with nicotine and carries it to the receptor sites. Then, after the smoke, my blood starts carrying it away to clean it up. Then the receptor sites start activating, creating a mild discomfort and thoughts that lead to getting more nicotine. The thought triggers a learned response that associates lighting up with feeling more comfortable. I light a smoke. My blood fill with nicotine . . . on and on, over and over. A vicous cycle!

Isn’t this addiction: when I wish I was free but I don’t have the power to exercise my choice? Once I discover the power, I enjoy exercising my choice immediately and permanently.

It never seems to occur to me that there will never be a right time to stop. This is one of the ingenuities of drug addiction: it is designed to keep me trapped for life.

I have learned to recognize that feeling of needing to do something with my hands and interpret it as, “I want or need a cigarette,.” I can learn to interpret that feeling differently.

I close my eyes and imagine how I will feel three weeks after extinguishing my final cigarette. Physically strong, full of energy, confident, complete.

The empty insecure feeling of nicotine craving is so slight I’m usually not even aware of it. It is an empty, insecure feeling, almost identical to hunger for food. If I light another cigarette the nicotine will be replaced, the empty, insecure feeling will ease and I will feel exactly the same as I did before I lit that first cigarette. Each cigarette creates the need for the next. The only reason I continues to smoke is to scratch that itch.

It is the psychological state of the individual addict that counts and not the substance itself.

I am excited and grateful that I am in the process of escaping from the genuine misery of being a smoker.

Craving for nicotine cannot actually be satisfied by smoking a cigarette. This means that a smoker is permanently craving. The only way to satisfy it is to stop feeding it.

The beautiful truth is that the physical withdrawal from nicotine is discomforting but not actually painful, and it gets no worse after you extinguish your final cigarette.

The only pleasure in smoking is ending the aggravation of the body craving nicotine.

Smoking is a lifetime’s chain of nicotine leaving the body and creating that empty, insecure feeling.

The more I smoke, the less I want to smoke. The less I smoke, the more I want to smoke. Smokers can never win. Being addicted is spending my whole life in an uphill battle.

It is a strange pastime that, when I am allowed to do it, I cannot understand what pleasure I am receiving and wish I didn’t have to do it. Only when I’m not allowed to do it, does it appear to be pleasurable.

Don’t even try to stop thinking about smoking. Use you mind to control what you think about smoking.

The feeling “I want or need a cigarette” is a cruel, subtle confidence trick. It is telling me that I want or need a powerful poison that will gradually destroy me mentally and physically and will provide me with absolutely no pleasure whatsoever.

Remember, any difficulties I go through when quitting are caused because I fell into the trap in the first place; they are not caused because I’m trying to stop.

The beautiful truth: I am giving up nothing, that far from being deprived of some pleasure, I am merely being cured of a lifetime of misery, penury, slavery and disease.

Most of the grunge will leave my body within a few days of quitting. My body will restore itself.

Get it clear in my mind: it is not nicotine that addicts me. What addicts me is the lie that some pleasure can be got from feeding the addiction. All that I get is continued enslavement and only momentary relief from the feeling of being incomplete.

On starting again: that feeling of relief is always tempered by a feeling of failure and foreboding, and the first few cigarettes taste weird.

Sure I’m physically addicted to the drug, but I am also addicted to the illusion that without cigarettes I am not whole.

A cigarette will only offer temporary relief and, worse still, it will start the whole process off again. The itch is only partially satisfied when we light up.

Being a smoker can never get better, only worse.

Nicotine created that imbalance, and will continue to recreate it all the while I find an excuse to light just one more cigarette.

There are no advantages whatsoever to being a smoker.

Missing smoking? What’s to miss? smell, ashes, bad taste, morning mucous, dishonesty, fear of disease . . .

Whenever I think about smoking from now on and for the rest of my life, I will quietly give thanks that I am free.

This is the correct decision. Never doubt it.

Any difficulties I experience are not caused by quitting, they are caused by starting in the first place!

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connie

Permalink Reply by connie May 2
 

WOWWW.i AM GOING TO READ THIS EVERYDAY AND ON MY QUIT DAY 5/5 WHAT AN INSPIRATION!!!
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dharmagirl

Permalink Reply by dharmagirl May 2
 

And . . . we have the same quit day!
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Cindy

Permalink Reply by Cindy May 2
 

Really great post! Thank you.
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connie

Permalink Reply by connie May 3
 

the 5th is just around the corner I am going to get my case of water and gum and a few other chewing or drinking items that may help and also attend church for spiritual help to get the strength that can only come from God. good luck
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Jamie

Permalink Reply by Jamie May 3
 

Thank you, I think this post will become a cornerstone when I put the smokes down on May 15th!!
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Lorelai

Permalink Reply by Lorelai May 5
 

Awesome. Thanks, that was great. Today's my quit day, so this was something I really needed to read. I will probably keep coming
back to this post just to read it again!!
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John

Permalink Reply by John May 5
 

Very well stated, m'lady!

I too deal with the same thoughts and feelings. I particularly focused on your thought of the future...I will be "Physically strong, full of energy, confident, complete.". I too will be strong again. But while I continue to maintain my positive attitude, I can't help but second guess myself...Will I actually be able to pull this off?

I have no choice in this matter, I must complete this...or die. It's really as simple as that.

Oh, I forgot to mention that I drink, too, and I'm giving this up at the same time! The smokes are going to be the heart of the battle because I can smoke and not drink, but I can't drink and not smoke. My fate is sealed, I have to quit both.

Not as bad as it sounds, though. I've been battling the alcohol long enough to know that in order to quit an addiction, one needs the support of those surrounding you. Probably even more important is to have a positive attitude, much like yours.

You have to be able to see yourself as a non-smoker. You have to be able to accept the help available to you, such as those here. Combine the two and you have a powerful "weapon" at your disposal that will keep you on track and ready to face the challenges ahead.

I absolutely love your statement that says,

"The beautiful truth is that the physical withdrawal from nicotine is discomforting but not actually painful, and it gets no worse after you extinguish your final cigarette."

and

"Most of the grunge will leave my body within a few days of quitting. My body will restore itself."

A proven fact! I look forward to the day I can breathe easy. Currently I awake every morning hawking my lungs up, sometimes even in the middle of the night! Not a pleasant feeling.

Finally, I refer to your reference to not feeling whole unless a cigarette is in your hands. This is true with most addictions, mine included. I think I can't look "cool" or be "macho" without a cigarette or a beer in my hands. I can categorically attest to the fact, first hand, that drinking or smoking does nothing to enhance your exterior image to others.

No matter what you might think, about my comments or whatever, I now know, more than ever, It's time to quit being an ass and do what's right...for my family, but more importantly, for me.
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Sandra L. Litherland

Permalink Reply by Sandra L. Litherland May 5
 

OH WOW!!! I forgot your name but not your thoughts!!! You are right on..........and exactly what I need. I missed my quit date of 5/1/ also, and am now smoking 10/day...................if I reach that too early in the evening, I go to bed!!!! I AM going to beat this................Lord, I've smoke since I was 13............I'm now 64.......................coughing?? Yes, hacking? Yes.................quitting!!! YES. I do live alone and really have no support................I feel that's what's holding me back now........ no one to see when I "sneak" a cigarette............no one to berate me! And no one to encourage...........but with all of these boards I feel I WILL beat this!!! I'M SICK AND TIRED OF CIGARETTES CONTOLLING WHERE I GO AND WHAT I DO! Do you know last weekend I didn't go to church with my adult daughter, husband and family because they were having a "Taste of the Town" so to speak after the service and I would have had to leave to SMOKE!!! THAT IS LUDICROUS!!! Maybe I should print my own response??? Thanks for yours.............and luck to ALL of us!!
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Dian

Permalink Reply by Dian May 6
 

Sandra, I so understand not wanting to go places because you can't smoke, been there and done that!!! Totally dumb. I set my date for May 5th but blow it, brought a pack and have half left. Will try again tomorrow.....
how did everything go?

I like what you wrote above and am printing it and keeping it with me. Thanks sooooo much!
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Sandra L. Litherland

Permalink Reply by Sandra L. Litherland May 6
 

Hi Dian............how are you doing? I bought another pack of cigs yesterday and keep track of each one I smoke. I read something years ago that I'm going to try. This is lengthy....1st week, smoke as usual BUT write each one you have. 2nd week, wait 15 minutes after getting up, eating, etc. before you smoke; 3rd week, smoke when you want but you can ONLY smoke.....you can't drive, talk on the phone, have a cocktail........if you're driving and you want to smoke, okay. BUT you have to pull the car over, get out and smoke..............4th week if you smoke regular cigs switch to menthol and vice versa......5th week put all your butts in a coffee can and smell it many times during the day. Well I was down to 4 a day and got word that I would no longer be receiving my alimony because of illness...............went right back out and bought cigs!!!! I had 4 kids.............well now I want to see my grandkids grow up. EVERYONE in my family has quit except me!!! I feel like a leper................I SO appreciate the help/comments on this board!!! Sandi
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