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Frustrated with Lack of support

lia1313
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Hi My name is Liana and I am new on this site. I quit smoking on March 16th because I got bronchitis. I was reading the other blogs on here and one thing struck a note with me. I got the same type of reaction also as another blogger wrote. Not one person I know said great job on quitting. My boyfriend who I live with even had the audacity to smoke in the car on Saturday.  I told him that he was not allowed to smoke in the car anymore since the smoke bothers me since I quit . He was very nonchalant about it and said," I didn't think you would mind since we are driving far." Are you serious? You think he would be more sensitive and say you know I understand that you quit and it's hard for you so I am going to be so careful not to smoke around you. That is not the case at all. He is smoking around me and better yet kisses me right after he smokes. I am just so surprsied with his lack of concern and ignorance of how his smoking would affect me. Am I expecting too much? Myabe he has a Iaissez  faire attitude because in his mind he is thinking that  any day now I will pick up a cigerette and will start smoking again. That is not the case at all. When I decide to do something I stick with it.  Yes I have urges but I redirect my  inclination to smoke by doing deep breathing techniques or I go to the gym. I did slip up once. I took a drag of a cigerette but I  threw it away as soon as I realized what I was doing. Since then I have not smoked and I do not plan on smoking. I am just frustrated with the support system or lack of support I thought I had.  I apologize for my venting on here but I figured since my boyfriend is a smoker he would be very proud of me that I quit and he would go the extra mile to show his support for me.  I could see if I tried to quit smoking before and went back to smoking but this is my first time I quit. MayBut that is not the case. I am so glad I found this site as I plan to continue to be a non-smoker! Have a great day!    

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