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Tough couple of days...

Jenn_06-03-14
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I have a lot on my mind lately and it is really stressing me out.  Maybe I can get some advice from all of you regarding this situation and then I won't be stressing myself out.  The last month or so I have been having issues with a niece of mine.  She is 27 years old (only 10 years younger than myself).  Her name is Christa.  Christa and my mom had come down for a visit about three weeks ago.  It was a good visit until we had went out for some drinks.  We had went to a place call Tropical Liqueurs.  It was a beautiful night, it was me, my partner, my mom, neice, and another friend of ours.  We sat outside and drank our smoothie drink, was sitting there about 20 minutes or so.  Christa then starts in on how she is wanting to go to a bar dancing so we were all trying to think of a place to take her so she could dance.  We were having some problems trying to find a place to take her so we made the suggestion to come back home and hang out here...play cards or something.  She didn't have anything to do with that and starting crying saying she never gets to go out, blah blah blah.  So we finally found a bar to take her to, we stayed until about midnight until it starting getting really packed because then it started getting uncomfortable.  So we told Christa we were ready to go.  She threw a fit!  Flipping us all off, downing her drink, etc.  Her attitude surprised us all!  We couldn't believe it!  So we got home and she just started bitching and complaining about things...being really rude.  I had had enough and I had went off on her!  I was so sick and tired of her attitude and just yelled at her and told her how immature she was and how she needs to check herself and start respecting us a little bit more.  However, she was drunk and I am sure that didn't help in the matter, but still!  That is no excuse!  So the next morning we had talked about what had happened and she started crying saying that she was embarrassed and sorry that all that had happened.  So now...three weeks later I have learned more things about her.  Her and her husband recently sold their house can't buy another one yet because they can't get approved for a loan.  They had the audacity to ask my mom if she was going to come down and sign paperwork for them so they can get a house!  Meaning being their co-signer!  Really?  Nothing was mentioned about it before, or they didn't even ASK her if she even could sign papers for them.  Mind you, my mom is 71 years old and she can't afford to do this.  So now my niece is mad that they don't have a new house to move into and have no place to live.  She treats us all like we are trash now because we won't help them.  Christa and her dad (my brother) get along great.  However, Christa can't stand his gf.  So she sends a text to her dad that says..."I am not going to live with you until you kick Gail out of the house".  Really?  I had sent her a LONG email message just saying how her attitude needs to change and that we love her and are only trying to help her, etc etc etc.  The only response was about how she hates Gail and that she won't move in with her dad until she is kicked out.  So she didn't say sorry at all about anything, but still blaming the gf...and making everything about her.  So, I have decided to stop talking to her and just let her talk to me when she is ready.  I can't stand the attitude and I can't handle the stress anymore.  It is all negative and I can't deal with it.  One good thing...I never smoked over it.  Not once and not ever will I smoke again...

Then yesterday I went to the dentist to get a cavity filled...it was on a wisdom tooth.  I guess the cavity was too deep and couldn't be filled.  So guess what?  I had to have it pulled.  😞  So I stayed home today because my mouth is in a lot of pain.  The last couple of weeks have been hard for me.  I just feel like crying and screaming.  I love my niece so much...but she is taking us all for granted and won't listen to anything we have to say.  I just don't know what to do about it anymore.  It makes me so sad.  😞

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