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"You can't wrap your worth in someone else's" selective deletes!

July 12, 2013 Comments (22)

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Just a little angry venting and an invitation to anyone who disagrees with what I have to say or doesn't like my style, feel free to let me know directly! I will be the first to admit I can be snarky and I am happy to stay away when asked...otherwise, I might make a comment on your blog!

Deleting whole blogs just because you don't like what people said is counter productive! Just let me know that my opinion is not wanted and I will gladly stay away from your blogs! Feel free to let me know in comments or PM me! If you post a comment after the "offending" comment, that will let others know you are not interested in differing opinions! When you delete your entire blogs including comments, it's hard to remember if I said something that might have offended! It is never my intention to be oppositional for the purpose of being difficult.   I really hope to help some people here!

 

Comments (22)

Whoa!  What did I miss, Nyima?  I'm sure you'd never say anything other than in a spirit of help, assistance and kindness.  Someone misunderstood you?

xxxooo,  Sky

Sky Girl 467 days ago

Nyima, They must have you confused with me !! I'm the one that people are calling rude and sarcastic.  You are just trying to help, but not to worry,  WE ARE ROCKIN OUR QUITS 

nanawendy 12-31-12 467 days ago

Teflon Coating, Nyima! You're all about TRUTH! Honorable! You can sleep well tonight!

Thomas(3-20-2010) 467 days ago

@sky,always the diplomat..I'm sure that's it, I was misunderstood! You didn't miss anything worth worrying about! Of course, I can't direct you to the comments in question because they were deleted!

@wendy, we are kicking ash and taking no prisoners! I would be proud to be confused with you!

@Dale, carping? Isn't that the definition of direct and straight forward!?! Thanks

@thomas, I want to be helpful...pretty simple! Thanks and hearing that from you, I'll be snoring with the best of them!

Nyima 1.6.13 467 days ago

I can honestly say that I have no idea what you are referring to, but if someone deleted what you have said - that means you struck a nerve. You needed to vent about it and that is so OK by me! Love you girl! Don't let it bother you :)

Michwoman 467 days ago

huh i dont get why ppl get so pissy on here if they not willing to accept good and bad comments then dont blog im sure that you only spoke the truth if they dont like it well too bad hugs to ya huni x

 

anniexhx 467 days ago

or disable your comments

anniexhx 467 days ago

Hi Nyima to me you are awesome . you have always been there to help me and guide me with my quit.  and like Michwoman said dont let it bother you. hugs.   erma   today is 176 of my quit.  thanks again for always being there for me and that goes for Thomas too.   nope.    nef.   erma

 

 

erma 467 days ago

Nyima...I'm a newbie here, but Girl, you are dead on with what you say.  I'll take my lumps and appreciate that you care enough to say what you mean.  You are an EXpert after all.

I started a f/b group with a few friends and had to go on there and admit that I have to start all over with my Quit.  That was really hard since I started the group too.  There are only 3 others on the group but they have had their quits for more than a year...All of them.  I wanna be like YOU!!

Huggs!

Becca~

BeccaS 467 days ago

@michlaura, I believe I did strike a nerve and apparently everyone else did too! It was all deleted, not just my response! You can not learn from it, if you delete it and neither can anyone else! Love back at ya'!

@annie, thanks for the hugs and I agree, disable comments when you are thinking out loud or aren't interested in other's opinions! (((Annie)))

@erma, I will be there for you forever!XOXO You better ride the train tomorrow with your big fat 177! Congrats!

@becca,thanks for the encouragement but I am no EXpert! I could relapse tomorrow just as easily as you! We are all in this quit together and I still learn something new everyday! If I should ever leave a "lump" that hurts, please let me know!

Nyima 1.6.13 467 days ago

don,t worry about some one deleting blogs, just goes to show you, they only see them selves as important so no need for that on here !

 

 

barbara 467 days ago

Nyima... seems to me that this is a sure sign that you struck a nerve.

 LOL I've been deleted  many times!  Never let that stop you from telling the truth because, we all need to hear the truth!  

And, from what I've seen, the people who delete comments and blogs, do so in order to help keep themselves in denial. Supporting someone doesn't mean telling them what they want to hear, but what they need to.

 I'm glad you're here. Keep up the good work!    =)

Jordan..Quit.11~1~12 467 days ago

nyima please dont take it personal.. we are recovering addicts and one of the signs that we are recovering is the emotinal roller coaster ride we go on...its called  smoking cessation drama... i look forward to receiving your advice...and im glad you are here as well...i just hope that person can get past it so that their quit is not in jeopardy...

newlife 467 days ago

Nyima----I totally agree----

Deleting is annoying and -----MY OPINION----cowardly! If you said something...stand by it OR apologize. Deleting makes it seem as if something can be "un-done"......erased....never happened. 

Deleting someone else's comments on a blog is also cowardly. If you blog and allow comments----then suck it up and maybe LISTEN since you came for support and people are trying to help. If someone just wants to write with NO comment...they can stop comment by checking the box.

The ONLY thing I slightly disagree with is that I do not think anyone has the right to ask someone not to comment on their blogs.....how "5th grade" is that? The blog page is a public page-----if someone posts there and allows comment that means anyone can comment. So you go ahead and comment away....this is an open community : )

Don't let it get you down Nyima......funny that some people seem to come here and all they want to be told is that they are absolutely wonderful and totally right

 

Sootie quit November 15, 2009 467 days ago

Nyima~Like everyone else is saying.....no worries:) Whoever it is obviously is not ready for help or truth. Sad for them. Hugs~Missy

Freedom Bell Rang~8-3-13 467 days ago

HEY  NYIMA :)  YOU KEEP GOING STILL STRONG , LIKE MICH SAID YOU HIT HOME WITH SOMETHING YOU SAID , THATS GOOD,MEANS YOU ARE DOING  YOUR JOB HERE * YOU GOT SOMEONE THNKING ,EAITHER THAT OR RELI PISSED AT YOU & YOU NO WHAT .. OH WELL ... SAY IT THE WAY IT IS LIKE U DO. THATS WHAT WE DO HERE , IF ANYONE WANTS FALSE INFO,NO SENCE IN BEING HERE .YOUR DOING RELI GOOD KEEP IT THAT WAY , THERES NOTHING BUT THE TRUTH SO HELP ME GOD :) LUV WHAT THOMAS AND WENDY SAID :) \

BUT MAYBE THE PERSON DIDNT MEAN NO HARM , MAYBE HE SCRATCHED OFF WHAT HE WROTE BC HE/SHE WANTED TO WRITE IT BETTER , DO A RE=DO CANT IMAGINE WHY A PERSON WOULD DELTE A POST OTHER THEN HE DIDNT MEAN IT OR MESSED UP BUT IF 8 WAS YOU I WOULDNT WORRY ABOUT IT ((((HUGS)))))

jojo 467 days ago

To everyone who responded,Thanks so much for your support! I was feeling frustrated and angry but my quit was never in jeopardy! 

Nyima 1.6.13 466 days ago

glad to heaar it huni xx

anniexhx 466 days ago

Nyima I know your heart is in the right place. Some people are sensitive and can't handel the truth.  Yes I did relapse. and yes I had some kicks in the but and some gental nudges. But if you all did not care abouut us, Why would you  leave a comment. 

Thats how I look at it, the care enough about my quit . To be honest I need that kick in the butt, or I still would  be smoking. We can't help every one.  Some people just need to pull up the big girl or boy pannties. 

Renee 1 week in progress

Wishingstar (Renee) 466 days ago

You're too kind to even worry about it!  lol   When I was upset by a few comments, Laura suggested that I reread the comments later when I was in a better frame of mind.  I did, and when I wasn't angry with mySELF anymore, I could see them differently.  Whoever did that just removed a tool to help themselves.  Having a record of all your thoughts and feelings AND people's reactions to them is actually VERY helpful.

motherlovebone 466 days ago

Some people you just instinctively feel are lovely people. Even on a message board, the good lights shine through. Always there, from day 1 for me...

I cannot thank you enough.

For real.

Px

pero the vuk 457 days ago

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