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Breaking up is hard to do

May 8, 2013 Comments (5)

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It is official. My dorkmate (boyfriend in layman's terms) told me he needs space so I told him he can have a lifetime's worth. The relationship has been pretty rocky for a long time and now it is finally over. I broke up with him and I am going to do it without a cigarette. Healing happens over time and it's only encumbered by my old friend camel.

How much stress was I actually causing myself with that draw from the addiction? I guess I will never know until I have gotten past the point of cravings. I am feeling kind of like a super hero. I am going through an extremely intensive, stressful program of study, I kicked the butt and kicked my boyfriend to the curb all at the same time. What's next? Saving the planet? I was already feeling lonely in the relationship and I know that will be compounded so I am going to need to really be careful during this time. I might want to give myself permission to visit with my old friend.

I feel sort of exhilarated and sad and horribly depressed all at the same time. How is all that possible?

Comments (5)

make your quit the most important thing in your life for awhile.

there's a lot positive benefits to it the main being knowing we are not controlled by something any longer


ImaDeer (Quit January 2007) 1238 days ago

You are a smart girl and it sounds like you have it figured out! Your " old friend " will probably see this as the perfect opportunity to get back with you! Just remember, you are a super hero and you will not be fooled by addictions trickery! Sorry about the breakup, but it sounds like the new and improved you will be looking for a healthier relationship! 

Nyima 1.6.13 1237 days ago

Just look at it this way,,,getting rid of the old and making  a new life, Smoke-free! Have positive thoughts and everything else will fall into place. You can do it! We can do it!

Shawn❤Quit❤03-17-2012 1237 days ago

Be sure to give yourself some extra TLC in the coming days....and keep uppermost in your mind all you have to GAIN by not smoking.  It will probably also be a good idea to plan what you will do with the money you are saving - hopefully something special just for you.

You ARE doing this and you will notice your self confidence grow as your quit days add up.  Honestly, if you can quit smoking, you CAN do anything!  Your possibilities are endless!

Stay strong and stay committed!


Quit 7/4/12

Youngatheart (7.4.12) 1237 days ago

Good for you! Who knows what lovliness awaits you in your new smokefree life!! xo


joyeuxencore 11♥5♥12 1237 days ago

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