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May 7, 2013 Comments (35)

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We were so happy.  Now this. 

I am at a point now that I don't even care about being smoke free anymore.  My husband just dropped a bomb on me and now I want to smoke every cigarette on earth! 

I'm basically worthless so what's the point anyway....

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Ok so you came here to tell us this because you need some support. You got it!!!  Please talk to us! No matter what it is smoking will NOT help! You have been a support beam for me and I want to help you so much! TALK  to us please!

Michwoman 1356 days ago

Stop it!  Stop it!  Stop it!  You KNOW you are not worthless;  I KNOW you are not worthless!

YOU control this part of your life and you must choose to remain an ex-smoker.  Life is going to heppen whether you smoke or not -  and you have earned this quit with your blood, sweat AND tears.  Smoking is not going to change anything!

I am SO sorry you are going through this.  You know we are all there with you in spirit.  Hang in there....................WE care!..


Quit 7/4/12

Youngatheart.7.4.12 1356 days ago

Blue - Nancy is right! Do not refund the payment you have made in this investment! Please let us help!

Michwoman 1356 days ago

Try to stay strong. Smoking won't cure or help whatever is wrong. All of us have been through things and chose to stay smoke free. You can do this!

jeannie2 1356 days ago

We are what we language. What you believe is true, is true. 

You have everything you need to be happy, healthy and whole.  You are going thru a rough patch but you're learning how to take really, really good care of yourself.  We're here to help you!  Stay close to the site and let the help happen.

Bonnie11.3.2009 1356 days ago

You are not worthless!!!! please dont smoke. talk to us, message me privately if you want. I want to help. You earned this, dont do it!!!

nikki77 1356 days ago

We are here for you blue...You don't smoke anymore so what can you DO for comfort instead? We have NEW coping skills that don't involve killing ourselves...One minute at a time you CAN get through this...Take a walk, call a friend, light a candle, say a prayer...xo


joyeuxencore_11-5-12 1356 days ago

please read what Bonnie said.

Stop speaking negatively of yourself.

your situation may be negative but you can stand up with your quit.

your quit will save you over and over if you believe it.

jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 1356 days ago

You are two days away from 100 days!!! This is your moment of truth and you came HERE because you know the love and support can sustain you...We are all reaching for you so grab hold of the life raft! xo


joyeuxencore_11-5-12 1356 days ago

Nothing, Nothing, is worth taking your no-smoking from you. i have been quit fot 5 years this June, my husband and i have gotten a divorce, at this age, it is not some thing i would ever have believed, i so hated it, but it never acured to me to start smoking, the thought passed my mind, but that is all, it passed and i am so glad that i do not smoke, heck now more than ever i could not afford it. but do not ever think you are worthless, i do not know what happened, but what ever, it is does not make you less. hang in there, it will get better


barbara42 1356 days ago

Smoking won't fix it! Obviously something has happened to make you feel really bad about yourself, do not make it worse by giving up on yourself! You are what you choose to be! No matter what anyone else says or does you ultimately only answer to you! Be the person you believe you can be! We are here for you, like you have been here for many! Nothing worthless in that!

Nyima_1.6.13 1356 days ago

The only person in your life who can make you feel worthless is you. You can only depend on yourself to find real happiness . You are worth so much more than a cigarette. Think of all the people who love and care about you including all of us!


Trish75 1355 days ago

I am grateful for everyone's comments.  I just have some things to work through is all.  Ugh this has got to be some kind of test.

The "bomb" my husband dropped on me: that he's in love with my sister, not me.  That I was just a way for him to get close to her.  AND, that I'm not really the type that people "love", just someone people want to have...relations...with.  Thirteen years of marriage and three kids later and he tells me this.

I can't even count how many times I've cried over this.  Hence the worthlessness.  His words, not mine.  I didn't think I was worthless until my husband told me that I was basically a warm body to lay with.

Sorry, I know this is super personal but I have noone else to tell, and I love you guys!  Boy could I use a "you're not worthless" hug right now...

blueinchains 1355 days ago

Wow...I'm speechless. You are SO not worthless. xo

joyeuxencore_11-5-12 1355 days ago

big hug to you.

you are not worthless.

sounds more like he is.


jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 1355 days ago

Here is your hug!  {{{{{{{{{{YOUARENOTWORTHLESS}}}}}}}}}}!

Really you are not! I know about these things! Ask anybody!      Tommy

pir8fan 1355 days ago

OK...I think it would be wise to locate a therapist. If you can afford one get a recommendation from a friend or contact social services in your city and often there are free services available. When my husband left me quite unexpectedly after 10 years I found a free therapist...having a professional who is objective and not emotionally involved is imperative. You need help moving forward through and beyond this. I am SO sorry you are going through this...smoking would make it all worse I absolutely PROMISE...Protect your quit as it is the one HUGE piece of self-esteem you can hold on to right now...xo

Private message me what city you live in and maybe I can help find one! xo

joyeuxencore_11-5-12 1355 days ago

tell him Ima poop in his bouche. if he doesn't get it , tell him to open his mouth

ImaDeer_Quit_January_2007 1355 days ago

Here is your not worthless hug (((((((((((((((((((((((((((BlueinChains)))))))))))

Do not let that piece of sh*t make YOU feel bad......he is SO not worth your angst!


Quit 7/4/12

Youngatheart.7.4.12 1355 days ago

When people call us names or say bad things about us, they give us an opportunity to prove them wrong! Or to prove them right! We are here to help you prove the former! So just forget the latter!

If the man lied to you for 13 years, why would you believe what he says now?

pir8fan 1355 days ago

Hey my buddy - we are the same quit day - please hang in and let's celebrate 100 together.  You are so worth it.


Brian100 1355 days ago

YOU are not the one in the wrong, sounds to me like he is the worthless one, you are above him, do not smoke over this, he is not worth your loosing any thing, i can only imagine how hard this is to take, but just know that

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